Now think about it. Do you really want to get back your ex girlfriend or boyfriend? Are you sure that you even want him or her back? To be sure that you really do want your ex back, you should ask yourself a few questions.

When someone dumps us, we tend to go a little crazy because our ego can hardly stand it. You may be afraid of being alone. There are a few reasons that you may want to get back your ex and they have nothing to do with your ex. The reasons you may want your ex back may lie deep within your own fears.

Do you miss your ex or do you just miss having someone around? Some people may be afraid to be alone. They may keep someone around that they really don’t like very much, just to keep from being alone. It is so unfair to the other person if you keep him or her around for this reason. This could be the very reason your ex left you to begin with. People know when someone truly cares for them. If your ex had a feeling that you didn’t really care about him, could be he left his heart open, waiting for someone who really did care and got out.

If your ex treated you like a piece of trash, putting you down all the time, why would you continue loving someone who made you feel so bad. This is the most difficult truth to try to find. Someone who treated you bad may have also destroyed your self-esteem. In an unhealthy relationship, one partner will continually berate their partner, so the partner starts believing all the negativity and won’t believe they can find anyone else.

Your own worth can make you feel like you need this person. That he or she is the only person who will ever love you. Deep down, you know what is happening. You just have to summon the strength to try to find self-respect and self-worth to get over the past and to find true happiness with someone that is deserving of your love.

Make a list of all the good things about your ex and why you want to get back your ex girlfriend or boyfriend. Now write a list of all the things you don’t like about your ex.  Which list is longer?

If you do decide that you would like to get back your ex, there are a few things you should do to give yourself the best possible chance. Let your ex alone for a while. You may feel that if you do this, you will surely lose him or her.  You have a better chance of losing your ex for good, if you call him or her up and start begging. Your ex will lose all respect for you.

You need to tell yourself that you don’t really want someone back just because they feel sorry for you. This would only be a short-term thing anyway. If you can let your ex alone for a few weeks, you will find your ex calling you and trying to get back with you.  You have to give your ex time to miss you. If you are torturing and pressuring him or her, what do you thing the chances are of being missed?

Make sure that you really do want to get back your ex. If you decide it is what you want then give your ex a little breathing room. Handle the break-up with maturity and before you know it, your ex will be calling you and begging your forgiveness.